Step by step. — You know, it’s not easy to move on from a narcissistic relationship. There are some things that need to be understood and accepted before you can start to turn your back on the total carnage you’re staring at in disbelief. It takes a while to get your head on straight. …

And who’s doing the work. — Relationships require maintenance, we all know that. If you were to just be in one, without taking time out of your schedule to do something with your partner, or without some other sacrifice, investment or care, it wouldn’t stand a chance. So what happens in narcissistic relationships? They’re maintained, that much is true, else they’d combust…

Why it feels one-sided. — You know that feeling you get that you’re alone in the relationship? I’m sure you do know it. It’s a feeling that slowly creeps up on you when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. You feel alone. Why is that? It’s because you don’t share a connection with them. None. Not on…

Is it a class they’re taking? — The stories of those who survived narcissists, are pretty much all the same. No matter the country or continent they’re from. All the narcissistic exes show the same behavior, they even say the same things. Like: “I’m not arguing with you.” Or, “I’m not responsible for your insecurities.” It’s peculiar. …

Forget about entire lists. — I’ve often listed a multitude of signs, aspects and indicators. Telling people how to recognize narcissistic abuse and relationships. However, there’s one sure sign that really doesn’t call for anymore signs. THE RED THREAD. The red thread of a narcissistic relationship. It’s very recognizable. It also leaves no room for doubt. If you’re…

How they get away with never delivering on any of them. — Have you ever done the math? If so, you would’ve come to the conclusion that the narcissist hasn’t delivered on, not even one of their promises. NOT A ONE. You’d think there’d be repercussions. Or atleast some form of accountability. But, as we all know, narcissists don’t do accountability. And hardly suffer any…

How to do it, once and for all. — It’s extremely hard to walk away from a narcissistic relationship. It takes most people multiple attempts at leaving the narcissist, before they actually do. And that’s because leaving a narcissist is like weaning yourself off of drugs. Narcissists affect the addiction area of your brain. It’s an indescribable bond you…

Without reciprocating anything. — It happens when you’re finally out of the relationship. And the trauma bond has desolved. The astonishment. Why in the hell did I keep going? What kept me loving the narcissist when they were so vile and cruel? Why did I not give up on it? It’s a well implemented and succesful…

And how it always unfolds. — Almost everyone that’s with a narcissist will start to wonder at some point, Am I with a narcissist? How can I know that I am? Maybe I’m exaggerating. They were nice to me yesterday. Maybe they’re just having a hard time. Maybe it’s me. Am I accusing them too much? Is it my nagging? And…