Starts at the very beginning.

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Triangulation is one of the early signs that should tell you that you're with a narcissist.

Narcissists love triangulation.

They think it makes them more desirable.

Some examples of early triangulation:

  • My ex still loves me.
  • I have a lot of nice female/male co-workers.
  • Did you see how they were staring at me?
  • My mom/kids/whomever will always come first.
  • I have a thing for [whatever physical feature].

And so on, and so on.

Narcissists think that you don't know that they're giving you little low blows.

They do that to make themselves seem important and to make you feel like you need to work hard to be able to be with them.

It starts very early.

As early as: “My ex is very beautiful.”

Or “My friends are convinced I'll never settle down.”

Triangulation starts on the first date.