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The Trauma Bond

And how to break it.

2 min readMar 9, 2023

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It seems one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do in your life.

Breaking the trauma bond.

It completely puzzles many and leaves them in a state of despair.

What is this?

Why can’t I get over this?

I’ve never had this much trouble accepting a break-up.

It’s never hurt this much.

In order to understand what it is exactly that you’re dealing with, let’s first explain the trauma bond.

A trauma bond is created when a person is subjected to abuse, alternating with intermittent reinforcement.

Due to an over-exposure of mood-altering hormones in the person's brain, a chemical dependency forms.

The addiction area of the brain is affected and the person develops a chemical dependency on oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, cortisol and adrenaline.

A trauma bond is a literal addiction.

Just like a cocaine, or heroine addiction.

Your brain is damaged, like a drug users’ brain is.

It's longing for a fix.

Withdrawal is physically and mentally…

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