The Narcissist’s Push And Pull

Why do they do it?

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It’s like they hate you, but then they want you to stay.

Why, if the narcissist doesn’t want to lose you, do they keep pushing?

Or why, if they don’t want you, do they keep pulling?

It confuses many.

It’s also the main reason why many harbor the hope for change.

Despite suffering despicable treatment at the hands of their narcissist.

So why do they do it?

And what do they actually want?

What’s behind it:

Narcissists need to:

• Degrade.
• Belittle.
• Hurt.
• Deminish.
• Invalidate.

That's to keep you small, so they can rise above you n feel like they're superior.

It's also to transfer their misery onto you. So they can feel good. Your function is to set an example of “things could be worse”.

Thirdly, it's to weaken you, a strong person would never put up with their crap.

But narcissists also need:

• For you want them.
• For you to despair over them.