I Opt For Staying With The Narcissist.
Yet that’s the main reason people stay.
Let me tell you about my friend’s friend. We’ll call her Mandy.
So Mandy was married to a rather wealthy man, and has two kids by him.
The marriage wasn’t a happy one, it was one like most long marriages, mundane, irritations here and there, with a husband in a mid-life crisis.
Yet both partners did their due diligence. As such, they went out to dinner in fancy restaurants, everyday.
Until one fateful day, Mandy was sitting at the table with her husband, when the busboy walked up to their table.
Lo and behold, it was Mandy’s highschool crush. The one that dumped her. The one she felt rejected by for years.
Needless to say, they struck up a conversation.
Mandy was no longer the nobody she was in highschool and the busboy was no longer rejecting her.
Ah yes, a fairytale romance blossomed.
Subsequently her marriage ended. Her husband, scorned, took from her the house, the car, her kids and everything else they had shared together.
Mandy was fine tho, she had her busboy.
Over a period of time the busboy became less friendly, less interested and less respectful.
Mandy was being subjected to numerous silent treatments, hot and cold behavior, disrespect and all that good narcissistic stuff.
And now the busboy has found himself a new girlfriend, told Mandy to f%ck off and blocked her.
Oh yes, Mandy f%cked up. I’m talking about a f%ck up of the magnitude of the Antarctic Desert.
Nevertheless, she told my friend, that although she knows it’s not right and she shouldn’t be wanting to be with the busboy anymore, she’s religiously waiting by the phone, hoping he calls her.
She said: “I know it’s not right, but I don’t want to leave him.”
My friend asked me: “Why do people do that? Why not just leave?”