All the Times You Should’ve Left the Narcissist

Hindsight is a bitch.

Sophia Bell On Medium
2 min readJun 5


The one most imperative thing you learn from having been in a narcissistic relationship, is learning when it’s time to abandon a relationship.

Everyone comes out of it thinking they could’ve never known.

And that’s true.

But never again will you not know.

Never again will you give the benefit of the doubt when it’s totally undeserved.

Once the fog has lifted, a list of junctures will unfold.

Occurences thar you now know should’ve been grounds for leaving the narcissist.

I advise each and everyone of you to never lose sight of that list.

Here it is in black and white.

The happenings in chronological order:

  • When you have your first argument and you realize that they refuse to take any accountability, instead they’re trying to blame it on you.
  • When for the first time, they deny that they said or did something that you clearly heard/seen.
  • When they insult you for no reason, then tell you that it was just a joke and you’re oversensitive.
  • When suddenly they disappear for a few hours and don’t answer their phone, to come back home and tell you that you’re making a huge deal out of nothing, and that they’re not responsible for your insecurity. When you only asked them where they were.
  • When you catch them in a lie, and instead of explaining why they’re lying, they blow up on you and leave, or hang up.
  • When they start criticizing your appearance and your character, everything they claimed to love at first.
  • When you feel the narcissist turned on you. And they’re now treating you like an annoyance.
  • When silent treatments, instead of having an adult conversation, start becoming the norm.
  • When their attitude towards you changes, when you’re around others, like your friends or families.
  • When you notice that you’re the one putting in all the effort, and the narcissist is just tagging along like they’re your kid, and you’re carrying all the responsibilities of maintaining the relationship, your lifestyle and all adult tasks.

These are all huge red flags.

That should be grounds for ending any relationship.

Never lose that out of sight.