Almost leaving you no choice. — There’ll come a point in time, before the narcissist discards you, when they’ll put in all their effort to try and make you leave them. Narcissists don’t like taking accountability and they really don’t want anyone to think that they’re the ones that ended the relationship. They really only discard…

Start off as training. — One of the most insidious forms of abuse, are silent treatments. They slowly creep up on the relationship you think you’re having. And end up with you accepting the narcissist doing whatever they’re doing, out of fear of the narcissist disappearing on you again. The very first silent treatment will…

Holding it down. — Some people wanna know why a narcissist would even bother being in a long-term relationship. The answer is that they don’t. Narcissists don’t bother at all. If you’d leave it up to the narcissist, the relationship wouldn’t stand chance. You are the one that’s making it long term, just think about it. Who’s putting in…

Hindsight is a bitch. — The one most imperative thing you learn from having been in a narcissistic relationship, is learning when it’s time to abandon a relationship. Everyone comes out of it thinking they could’ve never known. And that’s true. But never again will you not know. Never again will you give the benefit of the doubt when it’s totally undeserved. …

Reliving the discard. — Yesterday I was talking to a client of mine and she brought up the nightmares. It’s been a while since her discard and she thought she was doing pretty ok, until the haunting nightmares started recently. The nightmares in which the narcissist hurts you like they did when they discarded…

The process. — A narcissistic relationship is not like any other romantic involvement. It’s a sick and twisted dynamic. People fall in and out of love with a narcissist for entirely different reasons than they would with a normal partner. And then there’s the part where you start strongly disliking the narcissist, but…

For years. — I’m sure you heard it before, or maybe even experienced it. That the narcissist was perfectly normal and kept their disorder hidden for years. It wasn’t until the ending of the relationship that the partner found out that they were in a relationship with the narcissist. Is that possible? Yes. …

And be done with their new partner. — If you’re trying to find ways to make the narcissist dump their new partner and come back to you, you need to stop. The only thing that can make a narcissist be done with their new partner, is their disorder. And the only thing that can make a narcissist come…

What could be the cause? — Everyone who’s been with a narcissist, knows about their personality changes. One day, out of the blue, the narcissist starts liking different things. They change their every preference. They change into a different person you don’t even recognize anymore. What the hell? I’ll tell you. A narcissist changes personalities when…